Happy Tuesday ya'll!
Hellooooo Tushie Tuesday! Ms. D coming at you today - her booty was so awesome it hangs above my TV at the studio...
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Sam is one of my amazing ambassadors for 2018! She's actually 1 of 2 Sam's that are Ambassadors! She's originally from California but moved here (yay!) to pursue her schooling and career in the veterinary field.
She considers herself and old soul and enjoys retro & older things.
"I've always been fascinated with boudoir photography and have never had the courage to do it. i always told myself, it's not the right time, I'm not thin enough to do it. As I got older I came to realize that it will never be "the right time" I finally decided to do it because I'm starting to fall back in love with myself. I'm finally becoming more and more comfortable with who I am in my own skin. I would like to empower other women who aren't "super model standard" that you can do anything you want as long as you love yourself."
"I want to remember the current mindset that i have, self love always comes first. Don't let anyone tell you your worth, just because you aren't their form of beautiful, you should think that you are your own kind of beautiful."
Why did you want to be an Ambassador?
I have become an ambassador to help spread the message of self love and confidence. And why the heck not!
We're introducing a new feature....Tushie Tuesday! Today we take a moment to celebrate tushies in all their glory!
So you've decided you want to get some boudoir photos done. Whether for you (its always for you) or for a gift (which is really for you), you want to be comfortable with the photographer you're taking your clothes off with. Err...for. Mine stay on.
First thing you need to decide is male or female.
This is really a personal choice. You should also consider your significant other's feelings on the matter. I know some guys who would not be happy with their SO and a male photographer. So start there. Men and women are going to have very different perspectives of you. Neither are wrong, simply different.
Now, your budget.
Like everything, there's a WIDE expanse of price points. Examine your potential photographer's portfolio closely and ensure there is consistency among what they are showing. Also be sure you understand what is included in your session. Some photographers include hair and makeup. Others sell images separately. Read the details carefully and ask questions if you are unsure. I'd rather get asked a ton of questions upfront than have an unhappy client after the fact.
Are you two peas in a pod?
Read through the photogs website and social media. Do they sound like someone you'd be comfortable with? You don't have to be besties and you don't have to agree with everything but you should at least feel like you can get through a drink together without a ton of weird silence.
Is the style you want?
Some photographers are light & airy shooters. Other's are dark & moody. Some like color, some like black & white. Again, check out your prospective photogs portfolio. If you love the light, bright images and their portfolio is filled with moody dark images you will probably walk away unhappy. Do you like superposed images or something a little more fluid? Full body or lots of detail? Do your research.
What happens to your images?
(*many photographers will run model calls or portfolio updates where they offer a complimentary or discount session in exchange for use of your images. Again, read the details.)
Everyone always gives me reasons to not do a boudoir session. Sometimes they are somewhat valid, other times they just plain suck. So let's talk about some of them. 5 of them to be exact.
1. "I need to lose weight"
To be pretty broad brush, who doesn't? It's not so much that we want to lose weight, but you want to hit the gym, eat a little better, say bye bye to a few extra pounds. But let me be blunt here - that 5 or 10 lbs you are telling me you need to lose...how long have you been trying to lose it? Are you actively trying to lose weight (if so, and you want to wait, I totally get it). But if you're not actively making changes to your eating and exercise and you're giving me that reason....you need to stop and think about it.
First of all, we can definitely highlight the areas you love and de-emphasize those you don't. Plus I need you to celebrate the you of TODAY. Not the future you, not the past you. Regardless of your size, you are beautiful and I want to show you that.
2. "I'm not sexy or photogenic"
Yeah, I hear that one a lot. Like a lot. Go browse through the pictures on this site. Click over to my Facebook page or Instagram. I'd say 90+% of those women told me that. I will pose and coach you to amazing images. I will even tell you how to breathe. I promise you're going to love the images.
3. "I don't have anyone to give it to"
So? You do stuff for yourself yes? You get pedicures because they make your toes cute. You get a massage to be relaxed. You buy the cute shoes because...well, they are just cute. So why not gift yourself this? A day where you get pampered and a fabulous reminder to celebrate yourself daily. I have a couple of big prints in my bathroom that are a great reminder when I'm not feeling super awesome that I'm still beautiful and I'm capable of amazing things. How do you say no to that?
4. "It's expensive"
Yes. Yes, it is. I'm not going to deny it. In large part, I want this to be a buy once, cry once experience (though I'm always happy to have you come back!). Just like there are varying degrees of quality clothing, there are varying degrees of quality photographers. Some are going to be less expensive than I am and others are more. I want you to know that I want to provide the best for my clients - that's why my sessions include hair & makeup, drinks, personal coaching and an ever-expanding client wardrobe. It's why I only offer you quality products from labs I can trust. Plus, I offer payment plans so that you can take home ALL of your favorite images and you don't have to walk away feeling like you missed out.
5. "It's only for brides or young"
Nope. While I do have a lot of brides (kind of a result of displaying at bridal shows!) I do have a lot of women in their 40's & 50's. One thing I want you to keep in mind is that the images you see here, on my social media have all been approved by the client. You get a say on which images I can use and where they can be used. So some ladies are willing to share them all, some pick a few and others want to keep them all private. It's totally up to you!
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1. One change at a time
You don't have to do a complete 180 overnight. Start with one or two things and add as you go. Trying to tackle too much can be so overwhelming and you might give up because you don't appear to be making as much progress as you'd like. If you've got a long list, pick 1 big goal and a couple small goals to work on each month or every two months.
2. Resolutions don't just involve the gym
Most people associate Jan 1 with the day that newbies flood the gym. But your resolutions don't have to be connected to just losing weight or fitness. A great resolution, if you don't already have one, is to set up a rainy day fund. My newest favorite thing is Digit (check it out here). You connect it to your checking account and it analyzes your income/expenses and withdraws small amounts of money that you aren't using. I've saved over $1k without doing a thing.
3. Track It
There are a ton of apps/sites out there geared towards helping people track their goals. For example, if your goals involve fitness or eating habits look at MyFitnessPal. Want to be better with your money? Mint. Paying of debt? ReadyForZero. Not only can this keep you on track in the big picture, but if you're struggling you can look back and see how far you've progressed - even if it feels like you haven't moved.
4. It's not all or nothing
Whether your goal is to lose weight or learn a new skill, break it down into small chunks so that you can see your progress. It's defeating to set a goal too big and then not reach it - or not reach it as fast as you originally planned.
5. Pin it up
Create a dream board. Find pictures and words that make you think of your goals - whether they are 1 week goals or 5 year. Pin up reminders in places you see often, like the refrigerator or bathroom mirror.
6. Talk about it
Share your goals. Whether it's sharing in a 365-photo challenge group or just talking with friends, talk about what you're doing. You never know when you might inspire someone else to do something great.
7. Ask for support
There's nothing wrong with asking for help. If you're anything like me you want to keep control over the things you do, but sometimes you truly have to admit that someone knows better. If you're struggling, ask! You'll probably find plenty of other people who got stuck in the same spot you are.
8. Reflect on the past
When you start planning goals for the future it's often helpful to look back on the past. If you know that your first quarter of the year is always super busy then it probably isn't the best time to sign up for a 5 day/week course at the community college. Consider the rest of your life when planning out your resolutions.
9. There are 12 months in the year
Everyone is well intentioned in January. But by February you might be going "what happened to my resolutions????". The year is 12 months long. If the first month or two doesn't pan out, regroup and try again. Sometimes you might discover that your original goal needs tweaking.
10. But time slips away...
Just because you know that you can start again doesn't mean you should keep putting off getting started. Sometimes resolutions are kinda time critical. It's important to write down your goals and even better to plan them out on a calendar. If you use a planner, write in your plans. If you are a Google Calendar user they introduced a goal option that can help automatically schedule your goals for you. Check it out here.